2011/08/16

轉變你自己生活的25種方法 古儒吉


轉變你自己生活的25種方法 Twenty-five ways to improve life ..
古儒吉(詩麗‧詩麗 諾威香卡)談話 節錄自Week雜誌

在這個科學與技術的時代,我們可以是有創造性和生產性,但同時不失掉我們與生俱來的人性。只有單獨擁有物質上的東西或物質的舒適是無法令人覺得舒服的。你可能有一張好床可睡,但卻因為失眠或擔心而讓你不得安眠﹗你需要對你自己和你生命的優先順序有更寬廣的理解。清晰明白的心智會使你對根本的情緒問題更容易理解,就像是愛,或你與周遭朋友之間的互動,或瞭解你的自我(我執)或你的理智或喋喋不休的心智等等,而反省這些將帶給你幾分鐘非常重要的放鬆。因此,最重要的事是反省自己的生命和如何改善生命的品質,這種意圖本身將為你打開更多的門,讓你自己變得更好。
首先,確認你自己是否健康。
健康是
一個無疾病的身體。
平順無顫動的呼吸。
免於壓力的心智。
免於壓抑的理智。
免於糾纏的記憶。
關懷眾生的我執。
免於悲傷的靈魂。
你是否曾經思考你生命的目的是什麼?生命的意義是什麼?生命的全貌到底是什麼?
這些問題是非常、非常的寶貴。唯有當這些問題在你的頭腦裏顯露時,那麼你的生命才正式開始﹗但是,當這個問題進入你的心智時,不要匆忙的去捕捉一個答案。那些知道的人將不會告訴你,而告訴你的那些人是不知道答案的﹗你可以塞住你的耳朵然後走開﹗這些問題是你能用來為生命挖得更深的工具,然後答案就會從你內在裏面產生出來。一旦這些問題來到你的生命中,然後你就會開始"活著"生命,而不是只是生存著。去瞭解你是為了什麼而來到這個星球,去找出你不是為了什麼而存在這裏﹗
你不是為了悲哀而在這裏。
你不是為了責備而在這裏。
你不是為了痛苦而在這裏。
你不是為了擔心而在這裏。
你不是為了炫耀而在這裏。
你不是為了得到緊張而在這裏。
你不是為了被激怒和激怒他人而在這裏。
清單可以持續下去……..
在我們生命裏的所有奮鬥都是為了知道更多。你正嘗試以你最好的水準來理解你的感情和情緒,然後你將學會更多更多,但卻越來越困惑,這是發生在當今心理學的情況。它嘗試向你解釋你為什麼感覺到你正感覺到的情境。當你不開心時,"為什麼這樣"總是會出現。你問"為什麼所有人的問題都給我?”沒有人會問,"為什麼我是如此快樂? "你想要理解,"我為什麼感覺到不好受?”或"為什麼我忿怒? ",或"為什麼這種事不發生?”你越努力想要理解並探索它,你似乎就越來越不能理解。秘密加深,但是有時一個幻想會出現,好像"我瞭解它",但那只是一會兒時間的感覺而已。我們自己都不知道,但卻努力地對其他人作解釋。停止你的解釋,你的解釋已經把你帶進濃霧裏,也讓其他人更加混淆。你不知道在你的頭腦裏正發生著什麼。心智看起來像一條雲霄飛車,它是擁擠的。讓自己只是處在"我不知道﹗"的單純和天真的狀態,這個生命是既神秘又美麗,好好享受它。
如此全然的活在生命的神秘之中是喜悅。
神秘的形成是神聖的。
你是一個秘密﹗
當你用這個脈絡看待生命時,清晰明白就會在你的心智裏顯露,然後你的生命就獲得改善。

在這個科學與技術的時代,我們可以是有創造性和生產性,但同時不失掉我們與生俱來的人性。只有單獨擁有物質上的東西或物質的舒適是無法令人覺得舒服的。你可能有一張好床可睡,但卻因為失眠或擔心而讓你不得安眠﹗你需要對你自己和你生命的優先順序有更寬廣的理解。清晰明白的心智會使你對根本的情緒問題更容易理解,就像是愛,或你與周遭朋友之間的互動,或瞭解你的自我(我執)或你的理智或喋喋不休的心智等等,而反省這些將帶給你幾分鐘非常重要的放鬆。因此,最重要的事是反省自己的生命和如何改善生命的品質,這種意圖本身將為你打開更多的門,讓你自己變得更好。
首先,確認你自己是否健康。
健康是
一個無疾病的身體。
平順無顫動的呼吸。
免於壓力的心智。
免於壓抑的理智。
免於糾纏的記憶。
關懷眾生的我執。
免於悲傷的靈魂。
你是否曾經思考你生命的目的是什麼?生命的意義是什麼?生命的全貌到底是什麼?
這些問題是非常、非常的寶貴。唯有當這些問題在你的頭腦裏顯露時,那麼你的生命才正式開始﹗但是,當這個問題進入你的心智時,不要匆忙的去捕捉一個答案。那些知道的人將不會告訴你,而告訴你的那些人是不知道答案的﹗你可以塞住你的耳朵然後走開﹗這些問題是你能用來為生命挖得更深的工具,然後答案就會從你內在裏面產生出來。一旦這些問題來到你的生命中,然後你就會開始"活著"生命,而不是只是生存著。去瞭解你是為了什麼而來到這個星球,去找出你不是為了什麼而存在這裏﹗
你不是為了悲哀而在這裏。
你不是為了責備而在這裏。
你不是為了痛苦而在這裏。
你不是為了擔心而在這裏。
你不是為了炫耀而在這裏。
你不是為了得到緊張而在這裏。
你不是為了被激怒和激怒他人而在這裏。
清單可以持續下去……..
在我們生命裏的所有奮鬥都是為了知道更多。你正嘗試以你最好的水準來理解你的感情和情緒,然後你將學會更多更多,但卻越來越困惑,這是發生在當今心理學的情況。它嘗試向你解釋你為什麼感覺到你正感覺到的情境。當你不開心時,"為什麼這樣"總是會出現。你問"為什麼所有人的問題都給我?”沒有人會問,"為什麼我是如此快樂? "你想要理解,"我為什麼感覺到不好受?”或"為什麼我忿怒? ",或"為什麼這種事不發生?”你越努力想要理解並探索它,你似乎就越來越不能理解。秘密加深,但是有時一個幻想會出現,好像"我瞭解它",但那只是一會兒時間的感覺而已。我們自己都不知道,但卻努力地對其他人作解釋。停止你的解釋,你的解釋已經把你帶進濃霧裏,也讓其他人更加混淆。你不知道在你的頭腦裏正發生著什麼。心智看起來像一條雲霄飛車,它是擁擠的。讓自己只是處在"我不知道﹗"的單純和天真的狀態,這個生命是既神秘又美麗,好好享受它。
如此全然的活在生命的神秘之中是喜悅。
神秘的形成是神聖的。
你是一個秘密﹗
當你用這個脈絡看待生命時,清晰明白就會在你的心智裏顯露,然後你的生命就獲得改善。

1、回顧你生命的脈絡
依時間來看你自己的生命。數百萬年已經度過,而且數百萬年將再重來。你的生命是什麼? 60,70 還是100 年嗎?生命的時間跨距是沒有意義的,它甚至連滄海一粟也不是。就空間而言你完全不存在﹗這份理解將會消除自我的我執。自我是對自已實相的無知,對你存在的無知。當下,只要知道這個,我們還必須做其他事情嗎?只要張開你的眼睛︰"我是誰?我在這顆行星上是如何?我的生命是多久?”當這份意識在你的頭腦裏顯露,然後你將停止對一些芝麻小事的擔心,就好像"這個人對我說這種事情、那個人與我斷絕關係、與那個人發生了這件事、我將要說這個…"。所有這些小事將簡單的被放下,然後你將能夠過你生命中的每一刻。
你的生命在你的脈絡周遭卷起,你應該為生命而高興。所有其他生活的瑣事非常自然的會興衰沉浮的捲入。如果有一個身體,它將會感冒,咳嗽,發燒或發生其他事情然後這些事會離開。但小心地關照那個一直被建立在你內在的快樂,那被稱為purashaartha。我們的愛,信任和相信應該是要根深蒂固的,然後其他一切事情就會自己運作。在生命裏有多少事件進行﹗你能總是保持你的鎮定嗎?世界上的任何事情並非都是甜美的。如果你建基於信任,像莢殼內藏有莢豆一樣,你將會成長進步。
下這個決定︰"無論發生什麼,我都將會在那裏,我將深植於此。神的保護一直在我身上。無論發生什麼,我絕不會放棄這個信任而沉淪。我總是有神的手牽著。"在所有的情境裏保持你心的平靜,其他的將被妥善照顧。你至少必須在平靜和鎮定中採取向前一步。 "噢﹗沒有什麼事會發生。我的工作中沒有什麼事會發生。"如果你能理解你隨時被保護著,然後你就能在生命中的每一種情境裏笑﹗世界充滿愛。每個人都有愛存在他們內在。你必須在你的頭腦裏瞭解到這點。
你的頭可能已陷在泥漿裏好幾年;當你仍然活著時,不要把你的頭放進泥漿裏﹗如果你回顧你生命的脈絡,你生命的品質將獲得改善。
Review the context of your life.
Look at your own life in the light of time. Millions of years have passed and millions will come. What is your life ? 60, 70 or 100 years? Span of life is insignificant. It is not even a drop in the ocean. In terms of space you simply don't exist! This understanding dissolves the ego. Ego is ignorance of your reality, ignorance of your existence. Now, just to know this, do we have to do something else? Just open your eyes: "Who am I? How I am on this planet? What is my life time?" Awareness dawns in the mind, and you will stop worrying about little things like, " this person said this thing to me and that person broke away with me and this happened with that person and I am going to say this." All smallness will simply drop away, and you will be able to live every moment of your life.
Your life reels around your context. You should be happy in life. All other business involve ups and downs which is very natural. If there is a body, then it will get cold, cough, fever or something else and it will go away. But take care to see that happiness is always established in you. That is known as purashaartha. Our love, faith and belief should be deep-rooted, then everything else moves on its own. How many events take place in life? Are you able to maintain your equanimity always? Not everything in the world is sweet. If you are grounded with faith, like the husk with grain, you will progress.
Take this decision: "Whatever happens I will be there. I will be grounded. God's protection is there on me. Whatever happens, I will never go down. I always have God's hand with me." Keep your mind in peace in all situations. The rest will be taken care of. You have to take at least one step forward, which is to be in peace and equanimity. "Oh! Nothing happened. Nothing of my work happened." If you are able to laugh in such a situation, then understand that you have protection with you! The world is filled with love. Everybody has love inside them. You have to see that in your mind.
Your head will be in the mud in a few years; don't put mud in your head while you are still alive! If you review the context of your life, the quality of your life will improve.

2、 知道生命的短暫性
看見在這個生命的短暫性。那是事實。回頭看,你將看見所有作過的事看起來就像一場夢。所有都已經過去,整個事情都已被完成,明天也將會過去。有時,一小撮不愉快會出現,它會使你覺知到你的愉快。假定你從未在生命裏有不愉快的片刻,你也絕不會有令你愉快的時刻,你的生命將停滯在完全的厭煩之中,然後使你變得像一顆石頭一樣。因此,為了保持讓你活著,有時,大自然會在各處給你一點疼痛,它使生命更活潑,接受它。
你不必在生命裏有恐懼害怕,總會有支持出現。因此,在你生命裏出現的每個疼痛是為了成就最好,是為了使你的生命更活潑和更有趣。日日夜夜你如此努力的工作,整周都花在工作上,疲倦地回家,吃晚餐,上床睡覺,第二天相同的例行常規,週末也已變成另一個常規。如果你清醒過來,那麼你會看見那有多麼愚蠢﹗只要看當4、5個人聚在一起的時候,然後就會說長道短。在說長道短之中,你能夠立即改變話題,這是在人群中的一種現象。如果10個人正談論著天氣,然後你把話題變為股票市場,每個人將立即改談股票市場,不管他們是否瞭解股票,它是很有趣的愚蠢現象。
藉由覺知到我們生命短暫的本質,你發現在你內在有某些東西是沒有改變的。有一個參考點,藉由它你能說事情是在改變的,那個參考點就是生命的本源,那就是智慧。由於智慧,你的生命獲得改善。
Know life's impermanence.
See the impermanence in this life. That is the truth. Turn back and see that all that you did is like a dream. All have passed, the whole thing is finished. Tomorrow will pass. Now and then, a pinch of unpleasantness comes. It makes you aware of your pleasantness. Suppose you never had unpleasant moments in life, you would have never pleasant ones. Your life would stagnate in utter boredom and you would become like a stone. So, in order to keep you alive, now and then, here and there, nature gives you a little pinch. It makes life more lively. Accept it.
You don't have to be afraid in life. There is always support. So, every pinch that you are having in life is for the best, to make your life more lively and enjoyable. Day and night you work so hard. The whole week is spent working, coming home tired, eating, going to bed. The same routine the next day. Weekends have become another routine.
If you're awake, then you see there is so much foolishness! Just watch when four or five people get together and have a gossip session. In a gossip session, you can immediately change the topic of conversation. This is the thing with a crowd. If ten people are talking about the weather and you change the topic of stock markets, everybody will immediately talk stock markets, whether they know about them or not. It is great fun.
Being aware of this impermanent nature of our life, you find that there is something in you that has not changed. There is a reference point by which you can say things are changing. That reference point is the source of life. That is wisdom. With wisdom, your life improves.

3、 使你的微笑更便宜
在英國做的研究發現一個嬰兒一天微笑400次,一個青少年17次,一個成年人根本不微笑﹗越成功的人越保持一張非常僵硬的臉。這是一個成功的粗糙表徵嗎?處在壓力中就是繁榮,成長或尊嚴的表徵嗎?
你應該更常微笑。每一天,每一個早上,看著鏡子然後給你自己一個大大的微笑。 你知道當你微笑時,會發生什麼事嗎?在你臉上的全部肌肉都會放鬆,在你的大腦裏的神經都會獲得鬆弛,然後你得到信心、勇氣和能量,讓你在生命裏繼續向前行。
你看,你的微笑竟如此的脆弱﹗僅僅一個電話就足以把它帶走﹗你的感覺到底是什麼了不起的東西?把它們捆紮起來然後扔到海裏去﹗一旦你除去你的' 感覺',你就能夠愉快起來。只要看看你的情緒為什麼沮喪?因為某人對你說些愚蠢的事情。他們為什麼說這些愚蠢的事情?因為他們心裏有一些垃圾,他們需要丟掉,而你剛好在那裏,準備去接住它﹗而當你已經接住它,你又如此熱情的抓住它﹗好了﹗醒過來﹗不要讓你的微笑被任何人奪走﹗
通常,你免費地給出你的憤怒卻難得微笑,就好像微笑是昂貴的一樣。在無知之中,憤怒是便宜的而微笑是昂貴的。在知識裏,微笑像陽光、空氣和水一樣免費,而憤怒是相當昂貴的,像一顆鑽石一樣。讓你的微笑便宜而憤怒昂貴﹗你來到這個世界是為了更偉大的事業,好好的記住此事。永遠帶著這個挑戰︰"無論出現什麼,我今天都將微笑並保持快樂﹗"多微笑。
Make your smile cheaper.
A research done in England found that a baby smile 400 times a day, an adolescent 17 times and an adult doesn't smile at all! The more successful one keeps a very stiff face. Is roughness a sign of success? Is being stressed a sign of prosperity, growth or dignity?
You should smile more. Every day, every morning, look at the mirror and give a good smile to yourself. You know what happens when you smile? All the muscles in your face get relaxed. The nerves in your brain get relaxation, and you get the confidence, courage and energy to move on in life.
You know, your smile is so fragile! Just one telephone call is enough to take it away! But what is the big deal about your feelings? Bundle them up and thrown them into the ocean! Once you are rid of your 'feelings' you can be happy. Just see why your spirits go down? Because somebody said something stupid to you. And why did they say a stupid thing? Because they had some garbage they needed to throw out and you were there, ready to catch it! And once you have caught it, you hold on to it so passionately ! Come on! Wake up! Don't let your smile be snatched away by anybody!
Usually, you give your anger freely and smile rarely as though a smile is costly. In ignorance, anger is cheaper and smile costly. In knowledge, a smile is free like sun, air, and water and anger is extremely expensive, like a diamond. Make your smile cheaper and anger expensive! You are here for a greater cause. Just remember that. Take a challenge: " Come what may, I am going to smile today and be happy!" Smile more.

4、 保持熱忱、讚美他人
熱忱是生命的本質。我們經常有在別人的熱忱上澆冷水的傾向。反轉這種傾向。利用一切機會讚美他人並且支持他們的熱忱。如果你澆熄別人的熱忱,相同的情況也可能發生在你身上。當你播種,你將收割。回憶當你上國小的時候,你是多麼地熱忱和快樂,沒有熱忱的人看起來就像一具屍體。但是當你變成熟,熱忱的曲線卻下降。當熱忱下降時,我們就停止交流。
你願意怎樣看你自己?愉快並湧現熱忱還是黯淡和難以幫助別人?經常,你喜歡被取悅,被安撫和哄騙,所以你擺出一張冷酷的,令人倒胃口的臉並且讓人難以取悅。假如一個人必須一直安撫並取悅10個人,那將會是令人疲勞的事。拉長著臉並期望他人哄騙和安撫的人,會令別人離他遠去,情人就經常做這種事。他們花費許多精神在哄騙,而這個過程卻降低了當下的快樂和慶祝。 如果你感到沮喪,就安撫自己並使自己滿足,如果你需要他人的安撫那是粗俗的表徵。如果你想要被注意,你所得到的將會全都是緊張。有一張抱怨的臉是不可能獲得神聖的愛。讓自己變成一個熱忱從不會消失的人。
Be enthusiastic and praise others.
Enthusiasm is the nature of life. We often have a tendency to put coldwater on other's enthusiasm. Reverse this tendency. Take every opportunity to praise others and support their enthusiasm. If you put down other's enthusiasm, the same may happen to you. As you sow, so shall you reap. Recollect how much enthusiasm and joy you had when you went to the primary school. Someone without enthusiasm is like a corpse. But as you mature, the enthusiasm curve declines. As enthusiasm declines, we stop communicating.
How would you like to see your self? Happy and bubbling with enthusiasm or dull and difficult to please? Often, you like to be pleased, appeased and cajoled. So you put up a tough, upset face and act difficult to please. If a person has to appease and please ten people all the time, it will be so tiring. People who keep a long face and expect others to cajole and appease them make others run away. Lovers often do this. They expend a lot of energy in cajoling, and this brings down the joy and celebration of the moment.
If you feel down, appease and please yourself. Your need to be appeased by someone else is the sign of grossness. If you want attention, all you get is tension. It is not possible to attain Divine Love with a complaining face. Become one whose enthusiasm never dies.

5、 讓靜心成為你的生命的一部分
在生命裏的更高目標只能透過幾分鐘的靜心和反省來領悟。
什麼是靜心?
沒有騷動的心智是靜心。
在此刻當下的心智是靜心。
沒有躊躇,沒有預期的心智是靜心。
已經回家,回到本源的心智是靜心。
變成沒有心智的心智是靜心。
你越能深入休息,在活動中你將越有活力。即使深沉的休息和有活力的活動是相反的價值,但它們卻是互補的。在身體離開你之前,你要學習放下一切,那就是自由。
你在尋找什麼? 你正尋找一些巨大的快樂嗎? 你就是快樂﹗
我給你一個例子。你看過狗咬骨頭了嗎?你知道它們為什麼咬骨頭嗎?咬的動作讓它們的嘴受傷,它自己的血流出來,然後狗覺得骨頭非常可口﹗可憐的狗花了所有的時間在啃骨頭,但它從那裏得到什麼?你在生命裏經歷的任何快樂都是來自你最深處的本我,當你鬆開所有那些你所緊抓的東西,並安頓在那個空間的中心時,就被稱為靜心。實際上,靜心不是一種行為,那是什麼都不作的藝術﹗在靜心過程中的休息比你所能擁有的最深的睡眠還深,因為在靜心過程中你超越所有的欲望。
靜心是從過去和所有為未來的規畫中放開憤怒。靜心是接受此刻並且有深度的全然活出每一時刻。就是這個理解,並且連續幾天的靜心練習,就能改變我們生命的品質。醒覺、睡覺和夢覺三種意識最好的對照是與大自然,大自然會睡覺,清醒和做夢﹗它在一個存在的、壯麗的規模裏發生,並且它也在人體裏的一個不同規模裏發生。覺醒和睡眠看起來就像日出和黑暗。夢就像兩者之間的微光。
靜心就像到外太空的飛行,在那裏沒有日落,沒有日出,什麼都沒有﹗我確信在那個深沉的內在,你們每一個人都感覺到你沒有在增長,也就是你沒有改變的意思,沒有變老。這表示在你內在的靈魂,在你的最深處,你的精神沒有改變,沒有變老,它沒有老化。身體正在老化,但是在你內在的某些東西沒有變老。與那些不變老的某些東西保持聯繫,就能把美麗帶進生命裏。那就是靜心。
Make meditation a part of your life.
The higher goals in life can only be realized through a few minutes of meditation and introspection.
What is meditation?
Mind without agitation is meditation.
Mind in the present moment is meditation.
Mind that has not hesitation, no anticipation is meditation.
Mind that has come back home, to the source, is meditation.
Mind that becomes "no mind" is meditation.
Deeper you are able to rest, dynamic you will be in activity. Even though deep rest and dynamic activity are opposite values, they are complementary. Before the body leaves you, you learn to leave everything. That is freedom. What are you looking for? Are you looking for some great joy? YOU ARE JOY!
I will give you an example. Have you seen dogs biting bones? You know why they bite bones? Biting wounds their mouth. Its own blood comes out and the dog feels that the bone is very tasty! Poor dog spends the whole time chewing the bone but getting nothing out of it! Any joy you experience in life is from the depth of your self, when you let go all that you hold on to and settle down being centered in that space. That is called meditation. Actually, meditation is not an act; it is the art of doing nothing! The rest in meditation is deeper than the deepest sleep that you can ever have because in meditation you transcend all desires.
Meditation is letting go of anger from the past and all the planning for the future.Meditation is accepting this moment and living every moment totally with depth. Just this understanding, and a few days of continuous practice of meditation can change the quality of our life.
The best comparison of the three states of consciousness - waking, sleeping and dreaming - is with the nature. Nature sleeps, awakes and dreams! It happens in a magnificent scale in existence, and it is happening in a different scale in the human body. Wakefulness and sleep are like sunrise and darkness. Dream is like the twilight in between.
And meditation is like the flight to the outer space, where there is no sunset, no sunrise, nothing! I am sure that deep within, every one of you feel that you have not grown, meaning you have not changed, not grown old. This indicates the soul in you, the depth in you, the spirit in you doesn't change, doesn't grow old, it's not aging. The body is aging but something in you is not aging. Getting in touch with that something that doesn't age brings beauty in life. That is meditation.

6、 去最美麗的地方
只有存在著機敏和沉著,才能改善你的生命。為了這個,你需要培養傾聽的習慣。 我們之中的大多數人都不是好的傾聽者。當你聽著某人說話,他的第一句話就觸動了你內在的對話,你總是不斷地同意或不同意說話者,你是否曾經納悶過,如果沒有任何思想或預設的構想,你是否能夠傾聽?為了培養傾聽的習慣,你必須"去"到一個一切事情都是美麗的地方﹗這個地方在哪里?那個最美麗的地方就是你的內在﹗當你來到這個地方時,任何一個地方就都是美麗的。然後,無論你去到那裏,你就為那裏帶來美麗。
學習關於我們的呼吸的一些事情是非常重要的。我們的呼吸是一門很深的課程︰對於在頭腦裏的每個韻律來說,在呼吸裏都有其相應的韻律;而在呼吸裏的每個韻律,也都有一種情感與之相應。因此,當你不能直接處理你的頭腦時,透過呼吸你就能處理它。在學校和家裏,從來沒有人會教你如何處理你的心煩意亂,憤怒或沮喪。我們出生第一件事是深吸一口氣,然後我們開始哭,而我們死亡將做的最後一件事是呼出一口氣,然後讓別人哭﹗而在這整個生命之間,我們一直在呼吸,但是,我們對我們呼吸卻極少學習﹗
沒有呼吸, 沒有生命 ...,知道呼吸, 知道生命﹗
關於我們的呼吸,我們需要學習更多一些。我們需要知道一些關於我們所存在的身體的全部層面:呼吸,心智,理智,記憶,自我(我執)和本我。這就是我所謂的生命的藝術,學習一點關於我們自己,我們生命的七個層面,而那將使你處於當下這一刻,並且幫助我們去保持住那份與生俱來的純真,讓我們在每一個地方,與每一個人相處,都感覺像回到家裏一樣。我能建議的是,每年給你自己休一個禮拜的假,就像你將車子送去保養一樣。在這段時間裏,讓自己與大自然密切聯繫,日出就醒來,做一些練習,吃適當和所需要的份量的食物,作一些瑜珈和呼吸練習,唱幾分鐘的歌,以及一些禁言寧靜的時刻,享受這創造界的一切。
為自己在宇宙裏這個最美麗的地方預定一個行程,然後,你將發現每天都是一個假期和一個慶祝﹗
Go to the most beautiful place.
Only if there is alertness and presence of mind can your life improve. For this, you need to cultivate the habit of listening. Most of us are not good listeners. When you are listening to somebody, the speaker's very first sentence triggers some conversation within you. You are constantly agreeing or disagreeing with the speaker. Have you ever wondered whether you can listen without any thoughts or pre-conceived notions? To cultivate the habit of listening, you have to "go" to a place where everything is beautiful.
Where is the place? That most beautiful place is within you! When you come to this place, then any place is beautiful. Then, wherever you go, you add beauty there.
Learning something about our breath is very important. Our breath has a great lesson to teach us: for every rhythm in the mind, there is a corresponding rhythm in the breath, for every rhythm in the breath, there is a corresponding emotion. So, when you cannot handle your mind directly, through breath you can handle the mind. Neither at school nor at home does anybody teach you what to do when you are upset or angry or depressed. The first thing we did when we came to this planet is that we took a deep breath and then we started to cry. The last thing we'll be doing: we'll breathe out and make other cry! In between, the whole life, we are breathing in and out, but, we have learnt very little about our breath! No breath, no life - know breath, know life!.
We need to learn a little bit about our breath. We need to know a little bit about all the layers of our existence -- body, breath, mind, intellect, memory, ego and the self. This is what I call Art of Living, learning a little bit about ourselves, the seven layers of our life. And that makes you be in the present moment, and it helps us to maintain the innocence that we are all born with, and feel at home with everybody, anywhere. What I would suggest is, take one week off every year for yourself, like you take your car for servicing. During that time, align yourself with nature, wake up with the sunrise, do some exercise, eat proper food, just as much food as necessary, some exercises, a few minutes of singing, and then some silent moments, enjoying the creation.
Book yourself on a trip to this most beautiful place in the universe. Then you find that every day is a vacation and a celebration! .

7、 有效地溝通交流
學習與每一個人有效地溝通交流是一項值得擁有的技能。大多數時間你會發現你是不適當的在做這件事。沒有偏見對成功的交流而言是至關重要的。如果你面對一個比你知道更多的人,要像一個孩子並且張開你的耳朵和眼睛來學習。如果你面對一個知道得比你少的人,要謙遜並且努力的使他像你一樣好或者比你好。和一個小孩子玩,要玩的像你是一個小孩子的時候一樣。和老人交談,要記得有一天你也將像他一樣。和你同年齡的朋友溝通要讓你像是他/她最要好的朋友一樣。這個世界是超出我們想像之外的形形色色,並且總有東西可分享,學習和教導。當你是歸於中心時,你會成為一個強而有力的溝通者,而且當你的溝通能力改善時,你的生命也獲得改善。
Communicate effectively.
Learning to communicate effectively with everyone is a skill worth possessing. Most of the time you find that you are out of place. Communicating without prejudice is vital for success.
If you are faced with someone who knows more than you, be like a child and keep your ears and eyes open for learning. If you are faced with someone who knows less than you, be humble and strive to make them as good as or better than you. Play with a small child as you played when you were a child. Talk with an elderly person remembering that one day you will be like that. Communicate with a person of your age group like you are his / her best friend.
This world is varied beyond our imagination, and there's always something to share, learn and teach. When you are centered, you become a powerful communicator. And when your communication improves, your life improves.

8、 為你自己挪出時間
如果你一整天所做的是事只是在收集訊息,你就挪不出時間來讓你自己進行思考和反省。一些安靜的片刻是創造力的來源。若你能在白天某的某些時候,坐下來幾分鐘,進入你心的洞穴,閉上眼睛,並把世界像球一樣踢到遠處,而不是白天所有的時間都附屬於工作,最後,你將有能力執著於塵世和抽離塵世。這就是生活的技能,生活的藝術。
放下一切再重生會讓你重新裝滿能量。創造力不能只透過努力而發生。有一個關於Chhatrapati Shivaji的美麗故事。Shivaji對統治他的王國曾經一度變得非常挫折,因此他去找他的上師Samarth Ramdas,並且告訴他,他非常厭煩,只想放棄一切。Ramdas告訴他,他能放棄一切。就是這個想法讓Shivaji變得非常愉快而且輕鬆。然後Ramdas告訴他︰ "現在我是國王,你是我的僕人。你將會做我要你做的事嗎?"Shivaji回答︰"我已準備好對你做任何事情。 " Ramdas 說"︰非常好。你願意為我掌管我的國家嗎? " Shivaji回答︰ "好,我將為你經營國家"﹗全然的重生已經在他內在帶來熱心和熱忱。
當你放輕鬆時,創造力就會湧現。你必須放棄你一整天所做的全部工作,你才能在夜裏休息。掙扎和挫折有為一些人帶出創造力,雖然承受很多的痛苦,但這些不是一個人有創造性的唯一的原因。在世界上的數百萬人正在掙扎或受挫,但是他們卻沒有創造性。因此,為你自己挪出一些時間來改善你生命的品質。
Take out time for yourself.
If for the whole day you are engaged in only gathering information, you do not take out time for yourself to think and reflect. A few quiet moments are sources for creativity.
Some time during the day, sit for a few minutes, get into the cave of your heart, eyes closed, and kick the world away like a ball. But, during the day be 100 per cent attached to the work. Eventually, you will be able to be both attached and detached. This is the skill of living, the art of living.
Renunciation refills your energy. Creativity cannot happen only just through efforts. There is a beautiful story about Chhatrapati Shivaji. At one time Shivaji became so frustrated about ruling his kingdom that he went to his guru Samarth Ramdas and told him that he is fed up and that he just wants to renounce everything. Ramdas told him that he can renounce everything. Shivaji became so happy and relaxed at the very thought. Then Ramdas told him: "Now I am the king and you are my servant. Will you do whatever I ask you to do?" Shivaji replied: "For you I am ready to do anything." Ramdas said: "Very good. Will you run this country for me? Shivaji replied: "Yes, I will run the country for you!" Total renunciation has brought zeal and enthusiasm in him.
Creativity springs up when you are relaxed. You have to renounce all work you have done the whole day, only then can you rest in the night.
Though many times pain, struggle and frustration have brought out creativity in some people, these are not the only reasons for a person to be creative. Millions of people in the world are struggling or frustrated, but they are not creative. So, taking out some time for yourself improves the quality of your life.

9、 讓你周遭的世界更好
一條河需要兩邊的河岸來流動。在洪水和一條正常河流之間的差別是一條河內的流水是受管控的。在洪水期間,水沒有方向。同樣的,在我們生命過程中的能量需要一些指引來流動。如果你不給方向,它就會完全混亂。今天,大多數人是混亂的,因為在生命裏沒有方向。當你愉快時,在你內在有如此多的生命能量,但是當這份生命能量不知道往哪兒去、怎樣去時,它就會被陷入困境。當它停滯時,它就會腐爛。要讓生命能量往一個指示前進,「承諾」是必要的。
生命在承諾中運轉。如果你觀察在生命裏的每件小事或大事,他們一定與承諾相伴而行。一個學生帶著承諾而被允許進入一所學校或學院。不用說,一個家庭也藉由承諾而建立︰母親對孩子盡承諾,孩子對父母盡承諾,丈夫對妻子盡承諾,並且妻子對丈夫盡承諾。你下的承諾越大,你就會獲得越大的能量/權力來履行那個承諾。太小的承諾,它給你的是使你窒息。小的承諾使你窒息是因為你有更多的能力,但你被陷入一個小的洞裏﹗
你有10 件事情要做,如果一件事情出錯,你能持續做那10件事情;已經出錯的那件事情會自己走回它自己正確的道路﹗但是如果你只有一件事情要做,而那件事出錯,那麼你就陷入困境。通常我們認為我們應該要有資源,然後我們才能承諾。你下的承諾越大,越多的資源將自動來到你身上。不管你保證什麼都將為你帶來力量。如果你向你的家人保證,那麼你的家人就會全力支持你,如果你向社會保證,你就會享受到社會對你的支持。
承諾最後總是會帶來安慰。承諾將這個世界變成一個更適合居住的地方。
Better the world around you.
A river needs two bunks to flow. The difference between flood and normal river is that water flow is regulated in a river. During floods, water has no direction. Similarly, the energy in our life needs some direction to flow. If you don't give direction, it is all confusion. Today, most people are confused because there is no direction in life. When you are happy, there is so much of life-energy in you; but when this life-energy doesn't know where to go, how to go, it gets stuck. When it stagnates, it rots. For life-energy to move in a direction, commitment is essential.
Life runs with commitment. If you observe every small thing or big thing in life, they go with certain commitment. A student takes admission in a school or college with a commitment. Needless to say, a family runs on commitment: mother is committed to the child, child is committed to the parents, husband is committed to wife, and wife is committed to husband. Greater the commitment you take, greater the energy/power you gain to fulfill that commitment. Greater the commitment, easier things are. Smaller the commitment, suffocating it is for you. Smaller commitments suffocate you because you have more capacity, but you are stuck in a small hole!
When you have ten things to do and if one thing goes wrong, you can keep doing the ten things; the thing that has gone wrong will set itself right! But if you have only one thing to do and that goes wrong, then are you are stuck with it. Usually we think we should have resource and then we will commit. Greater the commitment you take, greater the resources will come to you automatically. Whatever you are committed to brings you strength. If you are committed to your family then your family supports you, if you are committed to society, you enjoy the support of society.
Commitment will always bring comfort in the long run. Make a commitment to make this world a better place to live.

10、 滋養你的情感
一個人沒有情感就像木頭沒有任何汁液。你必需要使你的生命有趣,以便讓人們樂意和你在一起,而當你用音樂、祈禱和服務滋養你自己時,這將會發生。
從個人意識擴大到宇宙意識的方法是分享其他人的悲哀和快樂。當你成長時,你的意識也將增長。當你隨著時間在知識中擴展時,沮喪就不可能發生在你身上。 克服個人痛苦的方法是去分享全體的痛苦﹗擴大個人快樂的方法是去分享全體的快樂,而不是一直想著"那我怎麼樣"? "我能從這個世界獲得什麼"?相反的是去思考"我能為世界做什麼? "
寧靜有治癒並恢復活力的能力。寧靜帶給你深度、穩定度、並且帶來創造力。服務引領出「心」的活力經驗,它創造出一個歸屬的感覺。缺乏服務會讓一個人落入沮喪裏。痛苦是不可避免的,受苦卻是可選擇的;痛苦是身體層面的,受苦是精神層面的。如果你對別人的痛苦無法感覺,那你就沒資格說是一個人,那是你需要服務的原因。服務本身就能帶出生命的滿足,但沒有寧靜的服務卻讓你感到疲倦,沒有靈性的服務將會是淺薄的,而且無法持久。寧靜越深,外部活動就越有活力。寧靜與服務在生命裏都是必要的。
當你經由服務為些某人帶來一些解放或自由時,好的振波和祝福就會出現在你身上。服務帶來良善,良善將提供你進入更深的靜心,靜心將帶回你的微笑。當你從心底唱歌並祈禱時,你的情感將被滋養,你變得"生意盎然"。
Nourish your emotions.
A person without emotions is like wood without any juice. You need to make your interesting to make people be with you. This will happen when you nurture yourself with music, prayer and service.
The way to expand from individual to universal consciousness is to share others' sorrow and joy. As you grow, your consciousness should also grow. When your expand in knowledge with time then depression is not possible. The way to overcome personal misery is to share universal misery! The way to expand personal joy is to share universal joy. Instead of thinking "what about me" and "what can I gain from this word?", think "what can I do for the world?".
Silence heals and rejuvenates. Silence gives you depth and stability and brings creativity. Service leads to the dynamic experience of heart. It creates a sense of belongingness. Lack of service can land a person in depression. Pain is physical. Suffering is mental. If you are not sensitive to others' pain, then you are not a human being. That is why you need to serve. Service alone can bring contentment in life, but service without silence tires you. Service without spirituality will be shallow, and cannot be sustained for a long period. The deeper the silence, the more dynamic the outer activity. Both are essential in life.
When you bring some relief or freedom to someone through seva, good vibrations and blessings come to you. Seva brigs merit; merit allows you to go deep in meditation; meditation brings back your smile. When you sing and pray from your heart, your emotions are nourished and you become "lively".

11、 規劃短期和長期的目標
在時間的任何點,我們的心都在過去和未來之間擺蕩,它不是對「過去」忿怒或悲哀,就是對「未來」焦慮不安。 在這種心態下,無論你做什麼行動,你將在一些時間後產生遺憾,這是你為什麼老是陷入相同的迴圈之中。它意味著你不應該計畫你的將來嗎?不﹗你應該計畫你的短期和長期的目標,然後,也只有那樣之後,生命才能得到一條航道、一個方向來前進。當心智全然的活在當下時,正確的計畫就會發生。不僅你應該規畫你的目標,而且要計畫實現規劃的手段和方法。你希望在3年後你變成怎樣?在20年後怎樣?在40年後怎樣?不要對結果狂熱,而是你要百分百的投入,如果你對結果狂熱,它將使你失望。
不要列出你想要達成的所有事情的清單。選擇真正重要的一些事情。曾經有一位老師把一個玻璃罐子和一袋裝有一些大石頭和一些小石頭和一些沙子的袋子帶到班級,他要求那些學生把袋子裏的所有東西全都放到這個玻璃罐子裏。一些學生先放沙,然後放小石頭,最後大石頭就沒有空間可放了。老師後來解釋說,如果先放較大的石頭,然後再放較小的石頭,那在石頭周圍就總有空間可以放袋子裏的沙。這個例子讓我們在事情的優先順序上得到很重要的一課,如果我們從長遠的角度來看那些可以給我們最大的滿足的事情,那麼小事將會自動找到它的位置。 在太陽系裏的全部行星中,地球很幸運的寄宿了很多生命型式,而且在所有的物種之中,人類是最幸運的,因為他們能夠擁有知識。你必須一再的記得你是和平,你是愛,你是快樂,而且你是受款待的創造者。如果你沒意識到你是主人,你就會活得像鬼。
Plan short and long term goals.
At any given point of time, our mind is oscillating between the past and the future. Either it is angry or sad about the past or anxious about the future. Whatever actions you do in this state of mind, you regret after some time. This is how you get caught up in the same old cycle. Does it mean that you should not plan your future? No! You should plan your short and long term goals. Then, and only then, life gets a channel, a direction to flow. When the mind is totally in the present, the right planning happens. Not only should you plan your goals, but plan the means and methods to work towards them. Where would you like to see yourself after three years? After 20 years? After 40 years? Don't be feverish about the results. Give your 100 percent. If you are feverish about the results, it will lead you to disappointment.
Do not make a list of all the things you want to achieve. Select few things that really matters. Once a teacher brought a glass jar to the class and a bag with some big stones, some small stones and some sand. He asked the students to put all the contents from the bag into the glass jar. Some students put the sand first, then small stones and by then there was no place for the big stones. The teacher later explained that had they put the bigger stones first, then the smaller stones. There was always space around the stones for all the sand in the bag. This example teaches us an important lesson in prioritizing things. If we put things that will give us maximum fulfillment in the long term, smaller things will automatically fall into place.

Among all planets in the solar system, the earth is privileged to host life in its many forms, and among all the species, humans are most privileged, for, they can host knowledge. Again and again you remember that you are peace, you are love, you are joy and that you are hosting the creator. If you do not realize that you are the host, you live like a ghost!.

12、 祈禱是一件不可或缺的工具
祈禱是改善你生命所不可或缺的工具。它也像正直和誠實一樣滋養著你的價值。禱告在兩種情境或多種情境的結合過程中發生,當你感到感激或當你感到完全無助的時候。如果你不感激和常常禱告,你將會是痛苦的。無論發生哪種情況你的禱文將會被回應。你所能做的,你就去做;你不能做的,你就為它祈禱﹗據說當你為它祈禱、當你為它哭泣、當你為它唱歌時,神會在你內在裏顯露,神只是在等你對你自己挖得更深入一點,因為這樣它才能為你裝滿更多花蜜﹗神希望你在你內在創造更多的空間。從你的靈魂中哭泣來祈求幫助,這是為了那些虛弱的尋道者所設的方式。對那些擁有知識力量的強壯尋道者來說,能以唱歌的方式來取得那快樂﹗當你在感恩中、在神的榮耀裏唱歌的時候,祂就立即在你內在顯現,並且再一次的讓你充滿恩典。有一類型的人是為了他們所有的成長而感恩,而另一類型是為了他們的無助和虛弱,兩者都將獲得幫助。
靈性不是一些儀式或者做一些事情。這是一種令人非常愉快,生命昇華的狀態,並且將這整個世界視為全都是心靈或意識的呈現。用祈禱把完整性帶進你的人格。不管你做什麼,都能瞭解到那更高的能量是擁有最後的發言權,而且它將總是朝向最好。
Prayer is a vital tool.
Prayer is a vital tool to improve your life. It also nurtures values like integrity and honesty. Prayer happens in two situations, or in a combination of situations. When you feel grateful or when you feel utterly helpless. If you are not grateful and prayerful, you will be miserable. In either case your prayers will be answered.
What you can do, you do.
What you cannot do, you pray for!
It is said the divine dawns in you when you pray for it, when you cry for it, when you sing for it. The divine is only waiting for you to dig a little deeper into yourself. Because, it can then fill you with much more nectar! Divine wants you to create more space in you. Cry from your soul for help. This is for those seekers who are weak. Those seekers who are strong with the power of knowledge can sing with that joy of what they have achieved! The moment you sing in gratitude, in glory of the divine, it immediately dawns in you, and fills you up again. One type of people is grateful for all their growth. The other type is helpless and weak. Both will be helped.
Spirituality is not some ritual, or doing something. It's a very pleasant, uplifted state of being and seeing that the whole world is all spirit or consciousness. Use prayer to bring integration in your personality. Whatever you do, know that the higher power has the final say and it will always be for the best.

13、 如果需要就進行改變
悲傷只是表示明辨力(Viveka)被遮蔽。明辨力表示知道一切事情都會改變。你的身體、你的情感、在你周遭的人們和世界上的一切事情都正在改變。一再地你必須意識到這個事實。
你經常害怕改變。雖然安全總是與穩定掛勾,但改變在很多領域內是不可避免的。 你知道為了改善你的生命,對改變是有需要,但你卻在舊有的模式裏才會感到安全。每當需要改變的時候,你就需要勇氣去執行。你必須要評估正反兩面。你必須瞭解那是否短期給你快樂而長期給你痛苦,或者短期給你痛苦而長期帶給你快樂。
生命是變化和非變化的結合。因此,在你感到需要改變的時候,使用你的理智和勇氣去進行改變。
Implement the changes if needed.
Sorrow simply means that viveka (discrimination) is overshadowed. Viveka means knowing that everything is changing. Your body, your emotions, the people around you and the world - everything is changing. Tie and again you have to awaken to this reality. You are often fearful of change. Change is inevitable in many fronts through security is hooked on to stability. You know there is a need for change to improve your life, but you feel secure in the old pattern. You need the courage to implement changes whenever it is necessary. You have to evaluate the pros and the cons. You have to see whether that gives you short-term joy and misery in the long run or short-time pain and joy in the long run.
Life is a combination of both change and non-change. So, use your intelligence and courageously implement changes when you feel that there is a need for change.

14、 釐清你的極限
每當你不開心或痛苦時,你就會觸及到你自己的邊界。這時,你能做什麼?你可以適時地心存感謝︰"噢,我觸及到我的邊界,我觸及到我的極限,這是我的極限。 "你完全地將整個情境變成祈禱"︰讓平靜存在,不只在我內在,而且也在每一個人心裏。 "祈禱是當你觸及你的限制,你的邊界的時候。
只要你沒有觸及到你的邊界,你會是平靜的,喜悅的,快樂的。在你觸及到你的邊界的那一刻,你能做什麼?你可以說,"神啊,我的上帝,你讓我知道我的邊界,你帶來平靜,我現在把它全部都給你。"就在那一刻,你將開始微笑,無論情況多麼沒有希望,你都將能唱歌、跳舞的走過它﹗這就是愛。
在印度語中,「愛」是被兩個半的字母所寫成的。他們說,"誰是一位上師,誰是一個專家,誰是一個智者?不是一個已經研讀過許多經典的人,而是已經研究過這兩個半字母的人。"而且這兩個半字母是你觸及到你的極限、你的邊界的當下的試驗,你是愉快的,平和的。你在邊界內嗎?還是你在心裏保持你的無邊無界和純真的愛?它還在嗎?如果是,那就沒有什麼能奪走你的平靜。
Identify your limitations.
Every time you are unhappy or miserable, you are just coming in touch with your own boundaries! And what can you do? You can just feel thankful: "Oh, I came in touch with my boundary, my limitation. This was my limitation." You just turn the whole situation into a prayer: "Let there be peace, not just in me but in everybody." Prayer is that moment when you come in touch with your limitations, your boundaries.
You are peaceful, you are joyful, you are happy as long as you have not come in contact with your boundaries. At that moment what can you do? You can just say, "My Lord, my God, You made me become aware of my boundaries. You bring peace. I am giving it all to You." That very moment you will start smiling. However hopeless the situation is, you will walk through it, sing through it, dance through it! This is love.
In Hindi, love is written with two and a half letters. They say, "Who is a master, who is a pundit, who is a wise person? Not one who has studied a lot of scriptures, but one who has studied the two-an-a-half letters is at this moment. It is a test of the moment, when you come in touch with your limitations, your boundaries. You are happy, peaceful. Are you in the boundaries? Or are you maintaining your boundaries and the innocent love in the heart? Is it remaining? If it is, then nothing can rob you of peace.

15、 不要失掉你的朋友
錯誤一直在發生。經常你想要去改正它們。你能改正多少?當你改正別人的錯誤時,會出現兩種情境。
(1).你改正某人的錯誤是因為它打擾了你。但即使你想改正它,卻是辦不到。
(2).你改正別人的錯誤不是因為它打擾了你,而是為了他們好的緣故,他們因此能成長。
為了改正錯誤,你需要權威和愛心。權威和愛心似乎是相互矛盾的元素,但實際上它們並不是。沒有愛的權威令人窒息。沒有權威的愛是淺薄的。一個朋友需要權威和愛,但是它們需要正確的結合,如果你全然的不動心與歸於你的核心,這種結合就能發生。當你允許有錯誤發生的空間時,你就能既權威又溫馨。那就是神的方式,在兩者之間正確的平衡,克裏希納和耶穌就是兩者兼具。
不要透過指證別人的錯誤而犯錯﹗
曾經有一位女士到我這裏來並告訴我說:她的丈夫已經對她說謊,她非常的沮喪。我問她:"你的丈夫為什麼要對妳說謊?那是因為他愛妳,而且害怕失去妳的愛或者會傷害你。如果他不愛妳,他就不對妳說謊﹗ "
不要去講一個他已經知道做錯的人的錯誤。做這種事,你將只會讓他更感到有罪惡。一個氣量大的人就不會挑起別人的錯誤並讓他們有罪惡的感覺;他會慈悲並小心地改正他們的錯誤。
Do not lose your friends.
Mistakes keep happening all the time. Often you want to correct them. How much can you correct? There are two situations when you correct others' mistakes.
1. You correct someone's mistake because it bothers you. But even if you correct it, this does not work.
2. You correct someone's mistake not because it bothers you, but for their sake so that they can grow.
To correct mistakes you need authority and love. Authority and love seem to be contradictory, but in reality they are not. Authority without live is stifling. Love without authority is shallow. A friend needs to have both authority and love but they need to be in the right combination. This can happen if you are totally dispassionate and centered. When you allow room for mistakes, you can be both authoritative and sweet. That is how the Divine is, the right balance of both. Krishna and Jesus had both.
Don't make a mistake by pointing out mistakes!
Once a lady came to me and said her husband had lied to her. She was very upset. I asked, "Why does your husband lie to you? Because he loves you, and is afraid to lose your love or hurt you. If he did not love you, he wouldn't lie to you!".
Do not tell a person a mistake he knows he has committed. By doing this, you will only make him feel more guilty. A magnanimous person will not pick on the mistakes of others and make them feel guilty; he will correct them with compassion and care.

16、不要尋求完美
很多時候,你生氣或是變得悲傷都是因為你對完美的過度渴求。如果你是一位過於苛求的完美主義者,你必然成為一位容易生氣的人,在無知的狀態時,不完美是自然的而完美卻變得需要費力去達成,然而當處在智慧或開悟的狀態時,不完美是需要費力的而完美是必然且無法避免的!完美意味著承擔完全的責任。完全的責任指的是體悟到你是全界唯一必需對它負責任的人,若你認為是別人應該負起責任時,那麼你的責任感就消失了,而當你是完全處在不動心(vairagya)的狀態時,你也能把瑣碎的事照顧的無微不至。完美是開悟者的本性,當我們喜悅時,我們是不會尋求完美的,而當你追求完美時,你就不在喜悅的源頭。喜悅是了悟到智慧從不放假,這世界表面上看起來是不完美的,但是深一層去看它時,全是完美無瑕的。完美通常是蘊藏於內而不完美常常炫耀於外。智者不會停駐於表像,他會深入內在探討;事物本身並未模糊,而是你的視線模糊不清。無數的活動在整個意識中運作著,但它依然完美無瑕不為所動。現在就覺悟吧!讓自己變得怡然自在。
在這世上,所有的事物不可能在任何時候都是完美的,就算是最好、最偉大的行動並且帶著最神聖的意圖,都會有一些不完美的地方,事物的發生就是如此而已。不幸的是,我們的心智傾向於抓住不完美的事物不放,而在這個過程中造成我們的心情、心智都變得不完美,心靈徘徊在這些無聊的事件上,我們迫切需要從這個迴圈中跳脫出來,由內在深處讓我們的心變得更強壯及更有勇氣。
Don't look for perfection.
Many a time, you become angry or miserable because of the feverishness for perfection. If you are too much of a perfectionist, you are bound to be an angry person.
In a state of ignorance, imperfection is natural and perfection is an effort. In a state of wisdom or enlightenment, imperfection is an effort; perfection is a compulsion and is unavoidable! Perfection is taking total responsibility, and total responsibility means knowing that you are the only responsible person in the whole world. When you think that others are responsible, then your degree of responsibility diminishes. When you are in total vairagya ( dispassion ), you can take care of even insignificant things with such perfection. Perfection is the very nature of the Enlightened one. When we are joyful, we don't look for perfection. If you are looking for perfection then you are not at the source of joy. Joy is the realization that there is no vacation from wisdom. The world appears imperfect on the surface but, underneath, all is perfect. Perfection hides; imperfection shows off.
The wise will not stay on the surface but will probe into the depth. Things are not blurred. Infinite actions prevail in the wholeness of consciousness, and yet the consciousness remains perfect, untouched. Realize this now and be natural.
In this world, everything cannot be perfect all the time. Even the best, the greatest of actions, performed with the noblest of intentions, will have some imperfections. It is but natural. Unfortunately, the tendency of our mind is to grab the imperfection and hold on to it. And, in the process, we end up making our moods, our minds imperfect and our souls reel with this nonsense. It is imperative to get out of these cycles, and to become strong and courageous from within.

17、讓我們脫離習慣的行為模式(變得不可預測的)
我們的言行舉止常像一部機器一樣,別人的一句讚美就使你笑容滿面,而一句侮辱的話也會使你將憤怒寫在臉上。我們不必老是以這樣的方式來回應別人,你可以自由選擇以不同的方式來回應。你不需要回答別人問你的所有問題,就如同別人有權提出問題,你也有權利選擇答或不答,所以讓自己脫離習慣的行為模式。
Let us be unpredictable.
We often behave like machines. A compliment makes us smile and an insult makes us frown. We don't have to react in the same way always. You have the freedom to respond differently. You don't have to answer all questions posed to you. As people have a right to question, you have the right whether to answer or not.
So, be unpredictable!

18 培養幽默感
某些程度上你天生就具備了一種小孩子的頑皮特質,好好的保存這種特質。幽默感是所有困境的潤滑劑。具備幽默感的人能順利渡過所有的對立狀況。幽默感是免於羞辱的緩衝器。如果你拒絕被羞辱,你將變得堅強。幽默感能將人們聚集在一起,而羞辱卻將人們打散。一個群體會被屈辱所撕裂,然而幽默感就像呼吸到的新鮮空氣。
幽默感也必須帶著關懷與謹慎的態度。幽默感能提振士氣,但是當它被過度使用時,只會留下不好的口碑。沒有智慧的幽默感是膚淺的,缺乏敏感度的幽默感會令人感到諷刺,它會為你帶來更多的問題。
智者善用幽默感帶出智慧和照亮每一個處境;聰明的人把幽默感當成是一層保護網而免於受到侮辱;殘酷的人卻把幽默感當成一把利劍去侮辱別人;不負責任的人運用幽默感來逃避責任;而愚笨的人卻太嚴肅的看待幽默感!要如何培養幽默感呢?幽默感不只是玩弄文字而已,而是出自本性的輕巧,你不需要去讀然後重複笑話。生活不要過的太嚴肅,因為你不可能活著離開它。對每一個人都產生一些歸屬感,也去接納那些不友善的人。規律的做瑜珈和靜心練習,對你內在的神性和行為的因果律要有不可動搖的信念。與那些活在知識並有幽默感的人在一起,並樂意去裝扮一個小丑。
Have a sense of humour.
You are endowed with certain naughtiness as a child. Keep it alive. Humour will grease all tough situations. One who has humour can sail through any conflict. Humour is the buffer that saves you from humiliation. If you refuse to be humiliated, you become invincible. Humour brings everyone together, while humiliation tears them apart. In a society torn with humiliation and insult, humour is like a breath of fresh air.
Humour should be coupled with care and concern. Humour can keep the spirit high, yet if overdone it leaves a bad taste. Humour without wisdom is shallow. Humour without sensitivity is satire - it comes back to you with more problems.
The wise use humour to bring wisdom and to lighten situations. The intelligent use humour as a shield against humiliation. The cruel use humour as a sword to insult others. The irresponsible use humour to escape from responsibility. And fools take humour too seriously!
How does one cultivate a sense of humour?
Humour is not just words, it is the lightness of your being. You do not have to read and repeat jokes.
Taking life not too seriously (because you will never come out of it alive)!
Having a sense of belongingness with everybody, including those who are not friendly.
Practicing yoga and meditation.
Having unshakable faith in the Divine and in the laws of karma.
Being in the company of those who live in knowledge and are humourous.
A willingness to be a clown.

19、 不要害怕犯錯
每當一個疆界被打破時,它都會製造一些恐懼。恐懼帶來厭惡,而厭惡又將我們帶回到那個疆界,當你為了維護那個疆界,你便發出防衛之心,你試著防衛你的立場,這是一件多麼沈重的事。每當你試著防衛你的立場時,它使你變得懦弱。放下你所有的防衛,當你毫不設防之時,就是你堅強茁壯之日。假如你常保純真之心,你對所犯的錯便能有所體悟。不論發生任何的錯誤,不要把自已當成罪人,因為在當下這一刻你已是全新純淨之人。過去的錯已經過去了,當這樣的認知出現時,你再次變得完美。通常,母親在責駡小孩之後都會感到愧疚,你對小孩發一兩次脾氣,是沒有關係的,為什麼呢?因為缺乏覺知!覺知不見了,所以憤怒才會出現。對本我、真理及一些技巧的知識能開啟你內在最優質的潛能,所以不要害怕犯錯,但不要犯同樣的錯誤,就算犯錯也要有點創意。
Don't be afraid to make mistakes.
Whenever a boundary is broken, it creates some fear. The fear creates dislike. This dislike puts us back in the boundary. And to keep yourself in the boundary you put forth defenses. When you try to defend your position, it is such a stress. Every time you try to defend your position, it makes you more and more weak. Drop all your defenses. When you are totally defenseless, that's when you'll be strong.
Your knowledge of a mistake comes to you when you are innocent! Whatever mistake has happened, do not consider yourself a sinner because in the present moment you are again new, pure and clear. Mistakes of the past are past. When this knowledge comes, you are again perfect. Often, mothers scold their children and afterwards feel so guilty. Okay, you got angry at your kid once or twice. Why? Because of a lack of awareness! Awareness was missing, so the anger came up. Knowledge of the self, truth and skills can bring out the best in you, So, don't be afraid to make mistakes, but not the same mistakes. You have got to be innovative even in your mistakes!

20、克服偏見
你對性別、宗教、種姓及階級的偏見,使你無法與身邊的人有良好的互動。通常你不會與經濟條件或社會地位不相當的人坐在一起,你必須學習去打破這些障礙。除此之外,也有年齡的偏見,青少年不喜歡和長輩一起玩,反之亦然。性別的偏見在鄉村很普遍。種姓制度也存在歐洲、英國和日本的皇室裏。宗教偏見更是廣為人知的事。在每一個社區、宗教及社會裏人們總被區分為好人與壞人,不要對好人與壞人產生偏見。同時,也不要因你的身分而感到羞愧。當你克服了偏見,你將變得自由,你的生活品質也將得到改善。
Overcome your prejudice.
Your prejudice against gender, religion, caste and class does not allow you to mingle with everyone around you. Often, you don't sit with people who are not economically or socially at par with you. You have to learn to break that barrier. Also, there is age prejudice. Teenagers don't like to have fun with elderly people and vice versa. Gender prejudice is more prevalent in rural areas. Cast system is present even among the royalties of Europe, the UK and Japan .
Religious prejudice is well known. There are good people and bad people in every community, religion and every section of society. Don't be prejudiced against them. At the same time don't be shy about your identity. When you overcome prejudice, you will be very natural, and your quality of life will improve.

21、去感受“我是受到祝福的”
坊間有很多關於成功的談話,你是否想過什麼是成功呢?
成功只不過是對自己能力的無知
成功是對本我潛力的無知
因為你預設你的能力只能做到這麼多。障礙的出現只是為了讓你看清楚自己的目標。帶著一顆平靜安定的心來看待無窮的可能,失敗只是讓你邁向更大成功的踮腳石。其實,生命中是沒有所謂失敗的,所有看似失敗的事件只是邁向更大成功的踮腳石。如果你覺得眼前的障礙讓你無法承受,深沉的祈禱能為你帶來奇跡。“我是受到祝福的”這種感受能幫助你克服任何的失敗,一旦你了悟到你是受到祝福的,接著:
~所有的抱怨消失了
~所有的牢騷消失了
~所有的不安全感消失了
~沒有受到別人關愛的感覺消失了
~對別人索求愛的需求也消失了
我執/自我常常是充滿企圖心並且想要去做一些艱難的事情,例如攀登珠穆朗瑪峰(喜馬拉亞山)。相反的,做一些簡單的事,例如觀看蝴蝶、在花園澆水、觀看小鳥或天空都能帶來深沈的放鬆,此類的放鬆能使你連結到你生命的源頭。同樣的,瑣碎的事亦能開啟另一個新的層面,並且帶來無比的祥和與休息,只要從你的小框框裏出來,你就變得自由了。有一句俗話說:“每一個成功男人的背後都有一個支持他的女人”,我想把它修改一下,“每一個成功的背後都有神在對你說,「我一直都在默默支持你」”
Feel that "I am blessed".
There is so much talk about success. Have you ever thought what success is? Success is simply ignorance about one's capabilities. Success is ignorance about the power of the self. Because you assume you can do only this much. If there are obstacles, you are clear about your objective. With a calm and serene mind, think of many possibilities. Know that failures are stepping stones for greater success. Actually, there are no failures in life. All the seeming failures are only stepping stones for greater success. If you feel the obstacle is too much, deep prayer can work miracles. The feeling that "I am blessed" can help you overcome any failure.
Once you realize that you are blessed, then
- all the complaints disappear,
- all the grumbling disappears,
- all the insecurities disappear,
- a sense of not being loved disappears, and
- wanting love disappears.
Ego is always ambitious and wants to do tough jobs like climbing Mount Everest . Whereas in a simple act like watching a butterfly, watering the garden, watching the birds or the sky, can bring deep relaxation, and relaxation connects you with your source. Seemingly trivial actions open a new dimension and bring in immense peace and rest. Just come out of your little shell and feel free.
There is a saying: Behind every successful man is a woman. I will modify this: Behind every success there is the Divine saying " I am behind you".

22、 隨緣行善
當你安住在本我裏,你變成了這世界的情人。靈性是物質的情人,物質也是靈性的情人,它們是天造地設的一對,它們彼此相互扶持。如果你不尊敬靈性,物質就不會令你愉悅,如果你尊敬靈性,你就會關懷這世界。當你關懷這世界,它將照顧你一切,你就如聖誕樹一般,分享你所有的一切。在一年中,當樹不結果即時,聖誕樹為人們帶來許多的禮物,聖誕樹所帶來的禮物和光亮並不是為了自己。同樣的,在你生命中所擁有的才華,也是為了對他人有所貢獻。為任何一個走進你生命中的人獻上你的才華,當你不斷的展現出你的善意,你便能活出你的真實本性。你是否曾不求回報的隨緣行善?
我們的服務不應該變得機械化。有一次,在星期天的服務日裏,當牧師對一些童子軍說“你們應該去做一些服務。”他們便問“我們該做那些服務呢?您是否可以給我們舉一些例子?”牧師回答說“例如有一位老太太要過馬路,你們就前去幫助她。”因此,這些小童軍出去找了一個星期卻沒有遇見老太太想要過馬路,最後有四個小孩終於在行人道上看見一位婦人,其中一個小孩就走過去問她“阿姨,你是否想要過馬路?”她彎下腰回答說“不要”,小孩感到很失望。另一個小孩又去問那位太太同樣的問題,因為這個小孩心裏想說可能第一個小孩沒有問的很恰當,此時這位太太開始有些疑惑,她在想為什麼他們要這樣問她呢?她便答應讓那位小朋友帶她過馬路,當他們抵達對面馬路時,第三位小孩便過來問她“妳想過馬路嗎?”這時她感到十分的困擾,當第四位小孩再來問她時,她差點就要大聲喊叫並匆忙跑走!
行善是不需要計畫,你只需要即席的做一些事,當你隨緣行善時,你便能碰觸你的真實本性。
Do random acts of kindness.
Abiding in the self you become the valentine for the whole world. Spirit is the valentine of matter, and matter is the valentine of spirit. They are made for each other. They uphold each other. If you do not respect the spirit, then matter is not pleased. If you honour the spirit then you will care for the world, and when you care for the world it will take care of you.
You are the Christmas tree. At the time of year when no tree bears anything, it has many gifts to offer. A Christmas tree bears the gifts and the lights you are carrying in your life are for others. Anyone who comes to you, you offer them your gifts. When you show kindness, your true nature comes into play. Have you ever done acts of kindness without expecting anything out of it?
Our services should not be mechanical. Once some boy scouts were at a Sunday service, when the priest said, " You should serve." They asked, "What is this service? Could you give us some example? "He said, "Suppose an old woman wants to cross a road, go and help her cross the road.
So the boys went and looked for a whole week, but there was no old woman trying to cross a street. Finally, four of them found a woman walking on a footpath. One of the boys went and asked her, "Madam, would you like to cross the road?" She turned and said, "No." He was disappointed. So another boy went and asked her again, thinking, perhaps, that the first boy hadn't asked properly. The woman was now a little bit confused. She wondered why she was being asked this. So, she said, it was all right for him to take her across the road. Once they had reached the other side, a third boy came and asked her, "Would you like to cross the road?" Now it really bothered her. When the fourth one approached her, she almost screamed and ran away! She almost screamed and ran away!!
You don't have to plan acts of kindness. Just do something spontaneously. When you do random acts of kindness, you come in touch with your true nature.

23、常保學習的心
保有你永遠都是一位學生的認知,不要低估任何一個人,知識將從任何一個方向來到你身上,謹記這句古老的說法“讓我敞開胸懷,讓知識從每一個方向流向我。”每一個人生際遇和每一個人都在教導我,這世界就是你的老師,當你常保學習之心,你將不再去低估別人,謙卑將示現在你的人生中。
有一個很好的故事,有一位先生賺了很多錢,而且將他所有的財產給了他兒子,之後他兒子在他的大房子後面蓋了一間小房子並對他的父母說“你們現在就搬到這裏住。”因此那對老夫婦就住在小房子裏,而他的兒子與家人就住在獨楝的大洋房裏。有一天,當孫子們在玩耍時,他們跑到爺爺的小房子裏,那裏的情況很糟糕,孫子便說“爺爺,小心!不要將你使用的盤子和椅子打破了。”爺爺便問為什麼?孫子回答說“因為以後我的父母親也可以使用。”人們不瞭解這個事實:有一天你也會變老。
Be a student always.
Know that you are a student forever. Do not underestimate anybody. Knowledge may come to you from any corner. Remember the ancient saying "let knowledge flow to me from all sides". Each occasion teaches you and each person teaches you. The world is your teacher. When you are always looking to learn, you will stop underestimating others. Humility will dawn in your life.
There is a nice story. A man earned a lot of money and them gave all his property to his son. The son then built a small house behind his big house and told his parents: "Now you have to stay there." So the old couple stayed there, while the son and his family lived in the bungalow. One day, while playing, the grandchild came to his grandfather' s home, where everything was in pathetic condition. The grandchild said, " Grandpa, be careful with your plate and chair. Don't break them." When he asked why, the child said, "Because tomorrow, my father will need them." One does not realize this fact. You are also going to be old one day.

24、 做不可能的夢想
除非你有一個夢想,不然你將不會去實踐它,每一個發明都源自一個夢想,要做不可能的夢,很明顯地,做夢將啟動一些超越你感官能力範圍的東西。夢的感應機制是有一些夢會影響你的日常生活,而有一些不會,有一些夢你會記得,而有一些你卻忘了。我們來到這世界是要去做一些很棒而獨特的事,別讓這些機會白白的流失,讓自己自由的去做偉大的夢想,有勇氣及決心去完成你夢寐以求的夢想。雖然有時候人們做著荒謬的夢,但是他們依然很堅定的去完成他們的夢想,去做一些有創意的,不要讓一年就這樣過去了卻一件創意的事也沒有做。
Dream the impossible.
Unless you have a dream, you cannot realize it. Every invention has come out of a dream. Dream the impossible. Obviously, dreaming employs something which is beyond your perceived capacity. Consider the faculty which is the preceptor of the dream. Some dreams have impacted your daily living and others have not. Some dreams you remember, and others you have forgotten.
We are all born in this world to do something wonderful and unique; don't let this opportunity pass by. Give yourself the freedom to dream and think big. Have the courage and determination to achieve those dreams that are dear to you. Many a time people who dreamt big were ridiculed, but they remained strong to achieve their goals.
Do something creative. Not a year should pass without doing something creative.

25、 去比對你的表現
當我們在翻日歷時,我們也需要去翻閱我們的心智。通常在我們的日記裏都充滿著回憶,不要用過去的事件填滿你未來的日子。騰出一些空間給你的創意,歡慶新年使你變得明智。從過去中,學習放下過去並且向前邁進,在過去的歲月裏,你有多少天是清醒的,又有多少天是在掙扎過活並受困在幻相(maya)中?回過頭去想一想,你這整年是怎樣過的?
~不要逃避任何事
~不要拒絕任何事
~不要遠離任何事
同時,讓你的注意力都放在本我中,這是一個很精微的平衡,那個平衡就是瑜珈。貧苦的人一年只慶祝一次新年,富有的人每天都在慶祝,而最富有的人歡慶每一個時刻,那麼你有多麼富有呢?如果你能歡慶每一個時刻,你便是創造神,當你在歡慶時,也別忘記回顧這一年,這就是你的功課。在今年結束之前去比對你今年的表現,之後別忘了微笑,2007年是幸運的,因為這個時候你還活著!!當你是為了這世界而活,這世界是幸運的,讓時間慶祝你的存在,你也如往常一樣帶著微笑。當你讓時間為你歡慶,你便是慶典中的見證者。心總是懷舊的,而頭腦卻渴望新穎的,生命是兩者的結合。在這新的一年裏,讓古老的智慧與現代文明,都進入我們的生活中,因為生活若缺少其中一項都是不完整的。也不要羞於與人談論人性與靈修的價值,是喚醒這世界的時候了!
祝福你們時時年輕,快樂久久!
Compare your performance.
As we flip the calendar, we need to keep flipping our mind as well. Often, our diaries are full with memories. See that you don’t fill your future dates with past events. Allow the space for creativity to dawn. Celebration of the New Year allows you to be wise. Learn and unlearn from the past, and move on.
In the past year, how many days were you in sanyas? How many days were you struggling being caught in maya? Turn back and remember the whole year. Do not run away from anything. Do not reject anything. Do not go away from anything. At the same time, let your attention be on the self. This is a delicate balance. That balance is yoga.
A poor man celebrates the New Year once a year. A rich man celebrates each day. But the richest man celebrates every moment.
How rich are you? If you celebrate every moment, you are the Lord of Creation. Review the year while you celebrate. This is your homework. Compare your performance in the year before last and smile.
The year 2007 is fortunate because you are living at this time!!!! When you are living for the sake of the world, the world is fortunate. Let time celebrate your presence. You keep smiling as ever.
When you let time celebrate you, you are a witness amid celebration. The heart always longs for the old, the mind for the new. Life is a combination of both. Let the New year bring into our life ancient wisdom and modernity, as life is incomplete without either of them. Don’t feel shy to speak about human and spiritual values. The time has come now to call the whole world!
Be ever new, happy you!!!!

轉載自
http://hi.baidu.com/bwbwj6/blog/item/8c61e01fe36541148618bfde.html
英文版
http://www.artoflivingsd.org/newsletter/twentyfiveways/srisri-25ways.html



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